Rachel Hollis is taking the women’s self-help book genre by storm through wit, wisdom, and a few glasses of wine.
Hollis’s two books, “Girl, Wash Your Face” and “Girl, Stop Apologizing” addresses a variety of issues women of all ages, races, sexual preferences, professions, etc. may face at one time or another.
Through both books, Hollis uses personal accounts to describe instances of self-doubt, excuse making, self-sabotage, and other areas women struggle in to illustrate how she overcame the situation and moved forward in her success.
In “Girl, Wash Your Face”, Hollis takes on commons lies women often hear and believe, which can impede success and happiness. Lies such as being defined by weight, feeling better than someone else, and being bad at sex, just to name a few.
Hollis openly talks of going to therapy, struggling with diets and weight-loss, and peeing her pants while jumping on a trampoline, (hey, I’ve been there, done that), all with the ease and honesty of a good friend. Some chapters are more serious than others, but all are equally important and inspiring.
“So let’s take fear away. Let’s go through some of the reasons why people give up on their dreams…Some people quit because the voice of authority tells them to.” From “Girl Wash Your Face”, page 61.
At the end of each chapter, Hollis briefly gives a list of strategies and tools she used to overcome these obstacles. While these strategies and tools worked for her, Hollis is forthcoming that they are not a magical fix or they may not work for everyone.
When you get down to it, the core of this book is about work. Working to make your life what you want it to be. Working to be the kind of mom you want to be. Working to be the kind of businesswoman you want to be. It takes work-a lot of work– but it can be achieved if you put your mind to it.
In her second book, “Girl, Stop Apologizing”, Hollis addresses how to set goals, create an action plan, move forward with it, and all without apologizing for being an ambitious, driven woman.
The basic theme of Hollis’s second book is the old adage- How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time…and if you need help eating the damn thing, ask for it!
“Ask for some dang help!…I get it, girls, I do. I know that it feels awkward for the vast majority of us to ask for assistance…The most powerful people in the world have whole teams that they delegate to.” From “Girl, Quit Apologizing”, page 112.
Hollis openly admits that she has help with their kids, house, running her company, etc. She talks about how her success wouldn’t be possible without help. And while at first she was hesitant to ask for it, she eventually did, and it has paid off in spades.
As women, we often feel that we need to be able to juggle it all, carry the entire load of our family’s needs on our shoulders. But, Hollis points out that this is an impossible standard we put on ourselves. Ask for help. Don’t be ashamed or feel that you are less of a mom, wife, friend, etc. You are human. There was only one person in this universe that could carry the weight of the world, our sins, our failures, basically do it all, and He died thousands of years ago. So give yourself a gift-the gift of asking for help.
One of the things that struck a chord with me the most from both books, is when Hollis writes about surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people-both friends and family. People that no matter how hair-brained your idea or goals seem to be, they are with you ride or die. They are there to support you through your process to reach your goals, help you up when you fall, and are the first to pop the champagne to celebrate when you succeed.
Personally, I have taken this message to heart and evaluated the people that I surround myself with. And sadly, I had to let go of some of the ones that were dragging me down. But while it was sad at the time, the loss of their negative energy has allowed me to move forward with my goals, learn from my failures,and celebrate my successes.
There are a lot of self-help books on the market, but I highly suggest picking up Hollis’s two books. Not only are they quick reads, they are entertaining. And really, you can’t have too much advice in how to navigate this life.
To check out more about Rachel Hollis’s books, blog, and media company, visit http://www.thechicsite.com.
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